The Hardworking Me =)

Have any1 wonder why girls thinks too much when it comes to love?
Wonder why girls talk/argue things that only in their imaginations?
Kept in heart things that is already deny by their loved ones?
Or even accuse something they say "found out by their girl 6th sense"?

Well, this is some of the reason why girls acted that way..

You see, when girl is in a relationship, they will 1st ask a hell lot of question

"why do u like me? why choose me? wat so good bout me? wat happen wit ur past relationship *if any*? why broke up wit her? when do u start like me? do u have her(the past relationship) pics? any contact of her? do u still keep in touch with them? etc etc.."

So many of the times, guys will need to explain n explain until they are out of breathe, and still explaining.. *take note that those question will still appear even after the guy answered once* =)


This is where the fears came along, whereby 1 fine day, she found all those "evidence" ;)

*pics edited by me is to avoid any further conflicts, pictures shown does not credited to me*

Can u feel how a girl would feel if she still see all these type of photo when she is with him?

Do u know how fast the rush of feeling goes into her head, or even heart?

Be it girl or guy, both gender are human too, and human do have feelings..

But girl tend to feels more than guy *i wonder why too*

And how much does a guy know when she is in tears? in pain? in ache? in sad?

Then, i stumble across these question that made me have the need to explain a little..

Although it may be long ago, but still, this is my freedom to explain =)

She say and i quote:-

"How do you call yourself a brother, when all you do is go out?
how do you call yourself a brother, when all you do is be with her?
How do you call yourself a brother, when you don't even care?
How do you call yourself a brother, when you could even leave us at home when we need you to be with her?
How do you call yourself a brother, when you don't even set an example?"

I am the eldest among my siblings, and i know how it felt..

When a brother go out, this does not means he is not a brother anymore..

When he is out wit me, he never forget bout his family *yes, including u my dear*

How do u know that ur brother do not care? do u examine his heart? his mind? or juz plain judgement from his action that is opposite of wat u think he should do?

Wat an example of a brother should be if he's not setting it? Did he do drug? abuse family? no work but to open wide hand n ask for money to spend for his own?

Another her say and i quote:-

"How do you call yourself family when you never cared what we think or what we feel?"

Again, how do u know he never cares at all? and wat bout his own feeling? shuldn't he care for himself too?

"sure you own big bucks now, but how much are there inside?"

Big bucks is better than No bucks, better than lazy-ing around the hse, finding excuses to say can't find a job =)

"How do you call yourself a grown man, when all you care is "love"
How do you call yourself a grown man, when you lost my respect."

If he who doesn't care about "love", then where should he find the reason to LOVE family, LOVE ownself, and Love whoever/whichever coming into his life that he had accepted?

He does not lost ur respect, it is you who make urself lost ur respect for him

"yes I know you are now 22 years old, but that still doesn't give you the right.
you may spend time with your significant other, but have you actually spend time with us?
We've been tolerant with you, but during this CNY? have you even stay at home one full day or even go out with us one full day, JUST YOU? just to spend time with your family?
JUST YOU, have you? CNY is all about togetherness, FAMILY COMES FIRST. NOT YOUR SO CALLED GIRLFRIEND."


Who is it the one who determined other ones right? you?

Yes, spending time with significant others may sacrifice the time with family, but have u ever thought why do some wanna spend a "two time" together rather than a whole bunch?

NO, dun get me wrong here.. im not trying to push away the "family time" together because once im in a relationship, i too felt like neglecting my family and spend wit YOUR family more..

As simple as eating dinner, me, him, and his family will eat together..

BUT as for my side, my family and i seldom eat dinner together..

Remember CNY ur bro DID spend one full day wit family..

He even mms me pics of all of u "lou sang" together..

And do u, my dear girl, wanna know the sad part for me?

I DIDN'T GET TO "LOU SANG" WITH MY FAMILY FOR THE 1ST TIME OF MY 23 LIFE

yes, open ur eyes n read properly..

In fact, i din even get to "lou sang" at any day for this yr FOR THE 1ST TIME..

and me, did not make any words for ppl to say, bcoz it's solely my decision, my fault..

Let me emphasize on this one

HE DO NOT PUT ME IN 1ST PLACE, HE PUT FAMILY AND ME as 1st priority..

So let me ask u this:-

How can u call urself as sister when u only question instead of understanding?

How can u say u hv tolerate enough but never give enough support for ur brother to catch his happiness?

How can u make conclusion when u never feel wat it is to be in his shoe?

It's impossible for me to steal him away from his family forever..

I too have the needs to spend time with him alone..

Don't i have the right to steal him for juz few hrs for myself?

Aunty, Uncle, Brother, Sister,

Those who have been in serious relationship should understand how deeply it felt to always be with ur loved ones..

The purpose im blogging this is not out of reckless, unconsiderable acts.

Im sorry, and plz accept my sincere apology, if i have hurt any1 in this post, in any way..

But plz also understand others if u wan others to understand u..

What hurt the most is not by physically injured,
It is the words that comes out from the loved ones *family, frens, relative, etc* sounds cruel to the ears of beholder.. And this type of hurt, can never heal easily nor can time wash it away.. Bare in Mind =)